Stress, The moment when we take a name, the first thing comes to our mind is frustration, fatigue, anger, depression, ill health and social issues. Look around and you will find everyone stressed be it a child’s mother or his teacher, be it a friend or relative, be it a full time employee or un employed and employer for that matter. Every one around is stressed and they live with it. How they conclude they are stressed is a question to be asked. It’s because the have agreed to this life style and living it to the core.
They accept they are stressed. The first mistake of being stressed the when you agree and acknowledge that you are stressed. There are hundreds of solutions, books, activities suggested to manage stress. I personally feel you manage things which we agreed that that they are unavoidable. You manage something which you agree that exists. Stress management is not by listening to music or by going shopping or by meditation, it's about improving the life style and being positive about every situation. Which means if you feel that you are nor stressed, there is no question of managing it.
A negative approach to anything in your daily walk of life will lead to stress which will make you sick and put adverse impact on your personal and professional life. It is so dangers that sometimes people decide to end their life and further more create a blank space in their loved once. A bad day at office will lead to unwanted argument at home, no attention to kids and old parents, effect on your social circle and you started being called as always negative and moody. You wanted to be happy however because you show your life is imbalanced you get in to more stressful situations. Visa vera, a small argument at home or Enroute to office adversely affect your that day productivity which will lead to bad day at office too.
So what could be done to manage stress? The literal answer is NOTHING. You are stressed only when you allow your self to it. It doesn't mean that you have to be happy or positive always. We can’t do that too and its fact. So what should we do? We have to be neutral in situation and responsive. Neutral means, you don’t have to over board the bad day, argument or any situation. You don’t have to be very happy in happiness and sad in no so happy situation. A neutral person is never stressed and there is no way that he has to manage the stress. This kind of people practice to control the emotions by increasing the level of tolerance. They don’t argue and chose to keep quiet. They don’t react and chose to observe the situation and try to put them self in counter part shoe. They understand this is beyond control so there is nothing much we can do and they smile and move on. These people usually wait for the moment to pass and feel the that time is a healer of all. They find the better opportunity to discuss when they feel the reciprocal party is ready to listen and agree.
How to practice being neutral? For the beginners the best practice to be neutral in all situation, good or bad, positive or negative they should be QUITE. A quiet person can win thousands of shouting crowd. When you practice not to react or being quiet, you will realise that people around you will provoke you and rub your wrong side, they try to pull you all down and eventually they will fail just because you managed to be quiet. It’s your will power and a strong decision which keep you neutral in situations. If find a strong willed, quiet and neutral person, you should decide to stick with them and take the learnings of tolerance.
So managing a stress is a stress only if you agree that you are stressed. If you are neutral person you may not have to manage stress. Live the quiet and tolerant life to be stress free!
